Because I have heard from many persons who are confused on how to find and select a therapist for their healing, I've decided to write how I personally went about finding my therapist.
Let me say that I am not an expert, and this is only from my personal experience. And my relating my personal experience is not to be taken as a counseling or clinical relationship - as my experience is not the same as yours (as no two people's experiences are ever the same), and how I approached my counseling may not be right for you.
The thought of doing therapy was EXTREMELY scary for me. Probably most child sex abuse victims feel the same. I actually felt that if I started therapy and had to 'talk through' the details of what happened to me that I would literally die in the process. I had this feeling that I would literally (or figuratively) sink into a very think extra- muddy 'mud puddle' and would not be able to climb out of that - like I would continue to sink into 'quick sand' like mud and literally or figuratively drown. This may sound ridiculous to someone who has never faced this. If you are a recovering victim, perhaps you can relate to this or a similar feeling as you face your fears of 'working through this' for your healing.
I started with attending Overeaters Anonymous Meetings that were held at hospitals that had eating disorder clinics. At these meetings I met others with eating disorders and a history of having been sexually abused as children who encouraged me to get into therapy. (Let me make a side note here that if you decide to attend Overeaters Anonymous, I found that groups that were not at eating disorder clinics in my area did not have people in attendance with eating disorders or history of having been abused. And I didn't relate to people who were overeating BUT did not have an eating disorder, and who were overeating for any cause other than being a sex abuse victim.)
I wanted to check myself into an eating disorder clinic, but my health insurance didn't cover it. Several people encouraged me to get the book Courage to Heal along with the WorkBook for that (both available in our Lending Library ). These books both encouraged me to start therapy and had information that helped me find and select a therapist who was a match for me.
This is how I went about finding and selecting a therapist:
First I got a list of recommended therapists from an eating disorder association. Currently you can get lists from:
I personally started with a list of about 40 therapists in my area who were recommended by an eating disorder association. This is how I went about the selection of a therapist after reading Courage to Heal WORKBOOK which has excellent points, questions, and evaluation sheets for therapists on pages 48 through page 57:
** I wrote down a short list of questions of items important to me (after studying the Courage to Heal Workbook), This list of questions was for my telephone short interview of potential therapists so that I would do this process analytically (not from my emotions). - although I did eliminate a couple 'from my emotions' of knowing that I got a 'gut feeling' of not feeling 'safe' with that therapist.
** Telephoned several therapists and screened with a short telephone interview of prewritten questions to decide whether to make an appointment with that therapist. I had decided to make an appointment with 3 to 4 therapists in the first group of my selection process. (I would have gone through the whole list of 40 if necessary)
** On the phone I told them I had a background of having been sexually molested as a child and would probably like to make an appointment with them, but would like to ask them 3 to 5 questions before making an appointment. Each one that I phoned allowed me to ask the questions.(If they had not agreed to the questions, I would have simply called the next therapist on the list.) Questions I asked them on the quick phone interview were short questions such as (a) How much experience do you have with bulimia, (b) How much experience do you have working with people who were sexually abused when they were children, (c) Do you require me to be on anti-depressants, and a couple other questions I formed from reading about therapists in the Courage to Heal WORKBOOK
** From these phone interviews, I eliminated several therapists. And I made an initial appointment with 5 therapists in person. I had decided that I would see each therapist in person from 1 to 3 times during my decision process and would treat these appointments as sort of interview and information gathering appointments until I selected the one therapist that I would work with on the long term basis for my healing. During my 'interview' phase with each therapist I wanted to determine:
a) How therapy would help me get well.
Hopefully this page has been of help to you in deciding to go into therapy and in your search for and selection of a therapist who is right for you. I am not telling you to approach this exactly as I did, but to find your own way of selecting a therapist. But feel free to follow parts of what I did if it relates to your personal style. There are some other good comments about finding and selecting a therapist at this webpage: EdReferral.com
You can read about the books that helped me at Lending Library. Please feel free to check out any of these books that you feel will be of help to you.
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In Love and Best Wishes to you in your healing journey,
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